About working with Damian

Counselling and Coaching in Wells and Somerset

IS THERAPY RIGHT FOR ME?

Counselling, psychotherapy and coaching services offer a variety of supports that can help you obtain life balance, find solutions, and achieve overall physical and mental wellbeing. There are many reasons why people come to Damian which range from everyday growth issues like job performance and stress management, or significant life events like divorce, the death of a loved one, or traumatic experiences. You may want to seek counselling due to an unexpected life event. Or you may wish to use the skills of the therapist to help you gain insights that can help you grow an mature as a human being.

Working with Damian, you will develop insight, gain support and learn new strategies for all types of life’s challenges. Counselling can help address many issues including anxiety, couples and family conflict, depression, grief, body-image issues, and general life transitions.

Therapy is not an easy option; it requires commitment from the client. Counselling, coaching or psychotherapy are good fits for those people who are motivated to do the work both in the sessions and at home, to find balance and wellness. The people who do commit are those who are willing to take back control of their lives, to become more self-aware, confident, ready to create lasting change by taking responsibility and ownership over their lives.

DO I REALLY NEED THERAPY?

The stigma of seeing someone to helps improve our mental health is slowly disappearing; but, in my opinion, not quickly enough. People are still concerned about what others will say if they say they are seeing a counsellor; sometimes it seems that our mental health is less important than what others might say.

Those who do come to see me are courageous and self-aware because they recognise that they need a bit of extra support.
We all need a bit of extra help at some stage in our lives. As an experienced counsellor, Damian is trained and experienced in listening, guiding people through their life transitions, relationship difficulties, and helping them uncover those skills they already have to find solutions to their concerns and problems.
Damian can offer the insight of someone who is not directly involved in the situation, who, unlike friends, has an unbiased view with only your interests in mind, to provide valuable support that backed up by years of training and experience.

Often people use therapy as a form of self-care — a bit like going to the gym — to tune up their mental skills for coping with the stresses and strains of everyday life to prevent more significant issues occurring. For example, working ion confidence, dealing with frustration, or developing effective communication and assertiveness skills.

HOW DOES THERAPY HELP?

There is plenty of evidence that counselling can provide long-lasting mental and physical health benefits. In using a mixed approach to working with clients, — using counselling, coaching and psychotherapeutic techniques — Damian can help you develop your problem-solving skills, help identify triggers and uncover and address those damaging life patterns that affect our relationships with ourselves and others.

By identifying those pattern, Damian can support you in overcoming obstacles and helo you develop effective coping strategies to deal with issues such as depression, anxiety, stress, and relationship conflict. Damian’s work with you is grounded in experience, training and research

Many people find therapy to be a help in managing issues, personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns and the hassles of everyday life. Everyone can benefit from therapy; it can help you handle emotions from problems or life stressors, even if they are not life-altering or traumatic.

  • Develop specific strategies and skills
  • Find purpose
  • Stay accountable for your goals
  • Understanding the underlying problem and resolving it
  • Improve the quality of your relationships
  • Change problematic behavioural patterns into healthier patterns
  • Improve self-esteem and confidence
  • Move forward instead of feeling stuck
  • Provide you with a scheduled time to focus on your needs
  • Develop new and improved perspectives
  • Manage feelings of anxiety or depression
  • Teach you how to manage your frustration and anger

WHAT ARE THERAPY SESSIONS LIKE?

The approach to counselling differs with each person I see because everyone is different. I firmly believe that the client is more important than the process; being trained in a range of different approaches, I can mix and match strategies to respond to your needs; I do not try and fit you into my process.

Generally, during the initial session, I will seek to understand your current issue or concern and then work with you to develop counselling goals. Sometimes people are seeking guidance for a specific and current life event. Others wish to explore early life events that are triggering current, problematic life patterns and interrupting relationships.

Quite often people cannot explain what the problem is; because they do not know. They just have a feeling that things are not right. That is fine; you do not have to have ready-made solutions; in reality, the initial problem is often just a symptom of other issues that people are facing or have been suffering with for years. Our job (mine and yours — the is a joint process after all!) is to find out what the problem is and to find a way of dealing with it.

Generally, clients attend counselling once a week and then gradually taper off to every other week, once a month and then every few months. Depending on your goals, counselling can be short- or long-term. Much of my work is short-term, by which I mean up to 12 weekly sessions. The options are quite flexible and can change depending on things like your schedule, finances and current life events. For example, for some people who live abroad, I see them when they return to the UK or via Skype when they want to have a chat which might only be once or twice a year. For others, who live a distance from Wells, I may see them for a two-hour session to make the journey worthwhile.

For therapy to be effective, you need to have a good relationship with your counsellor and be an active participant both during and between sessions.

IS THERAPY CONFIDENTIAL?

Counselling and psychotherapy services are confidential. This means that whatever is shared between you and your counsellor will not be shared elsewhere. However, there are exceptions:

  • If you are involved or become involved in a court case and you inform the court that you are involved in counselling and therapy services, I may be asked to provide information to the court
  • If I believe you are in danger of harming yourself or others, or if I have concerns the abuse or neglect of a child or vulnerable adult, I must advise the relevant authorities. I would always discuss this with you before doing so.

Beginning counselling and therapy services for the first time can be intimidating, and we are here to help. Please email me or call me on (07792 799017 for any questions or concerns.

For therapy to be effective, you need to have a good relationship with your counsellor and be an active participant both during and between sessions.

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